Do You Know What Love Is?

I am  honored and humbled to have my friend, Tamara D. Fickas, as my guest today. I was deeply moved by her beautifully written memories of her parents love for each other. I know you will be as well.

Please be sure to leave a comment letting her know how much you enjoyed her wisdom on:  LOVE.

Do You Know What Love Is?

By Tamara D. Fickas


Do you know what love is? This line from a Guardian’s song has been running through my head for the last few days. It started when La-Tan put out a request for guest posts on the subject of true love. I volunteered to write a post and then a little voice in my head said, “What do you know about true love?”

Truth is that I don’t know that I’ve ever been in love in the sense that most people use the term. You know, “I met this guy and I’m in love.” But I do know that true love is not always about the romantic, Valentine’s Day kind of love.

Do I know what love is? When I think of love, I picture my parents. They were married for 47 years when Mom died. They did life together through the tough times, through raising four kids, through better and through worse. Then sickness came.

Mom had Lewy Body Dementia for at least the last 10 years of her life. The disease slowly took her ability to handle the basics of life. As she progressed, Dad gave up more of his life in order to care for her. He was so gentle and sweet with her. He was constantly looking for ways to make Mom comfortable and happy. Things like buying her a doll like one she had as a child that got broken. He would buy the food she loved to eat. He walked and prayed with her when she couldn’t sleep. His whole life became about how to serve her.

Do I know what love is? Yep, love is sacrificial and caring. It is giving to another even when you don’t think you can give anything more. Love is a melding of lives until they become one.


Love is patient, love is kind… 1 Corinthians 13:4


My bio:


Tamara D. Fickas works at a local hospital by day and pursues writing novels by night. Tamara’s a contributing author to God’s Provision in Tough Times, by Cynthia Howerter and La-Tan Murphy. Visit her blog at

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